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The Key of Bonding: Dine Together


“And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts,…” Acts 2:46 ESV.

“So then, my brothers and sisters, when you gather to eat, you should all eat together.” 1 Corinthians 11:33 NIV

This “eating together” is not unusual for some, especially with friends and coworkers. On the other hand, it is a very big thing for some. In the hustle and bustle of our everyday life, we find it hard to have a meal together with family. People take two or three jobs to provide for their family. In some families, spouses take jobs in two different shifts. Husband taking job at night shift while wife working on second shift allows them to watch kids at home. When was the last time some of you had dinner together with your family? It was most likely the weekends or holidays for some! Dining together is a very special ritual for my family. My parents always expected all four of their children to come eat with them every day. That was something special I still cherish; our conversation, sharing bit and pieces from our everyday life, and planning for things etc., was big part of our family. The Bible also highlights about the significance of eating together. In the ancient Jewish culture, coming to table and eating together was a matter of spirituality. It required them to keep the Old Testament dietary laws and also maintain table etiquette by staying ceremonially clean. Without going into the details of dietary laws of the Bible, let me explain why we should dine together as a family or church small-group.

1) Getting to Know Each other Food or hard liquor, they are somehow more appealing to people and thus bring people closer. We can see how quickly food or drink can turn perfect strangers to connect and relate to each other as if they had known each other for ages. When we invite someone or go with a group to eat together, we talk. Don’t we? As we talk, we also start opening up. That helps us to know about each other. Knowing each other is important to bond in a relationship, thus it fosters warmth and sense of belonging. It also helps a new member of the group connect to the core group members. I see the invitation to the table as a genuine effort to know them personally. Knot

2) Strengthen Communication Communication is vital in every relationship. As we come to eat together, we may talk on wide varieties of topics that interests people in the table once we get to know each other. Everyone in the group can be asked about their input on certain things or simply carry casual conversation. Next, getting to know each other also helps us to open up more and communicate about ones well-being. When we listen to each other or show interest in someone’s story, it demonstrates that the person is valued and his or her ideas or opinions do matter in the group or family. Honest communication can be very meaningful to strengthen the relationship in a family or church small-groups. When we are open to talk, we can express ourselves and accordingly plan things for the best interest of the group. Eating together now means we are not merely communicating ideas in the table but also learning from each other at the same time. This can be a unifying experience for all involved members of the small-group.


| Eating together can be a head start to begin to know someone and garner relationship that is built on trust and carried on by honest communication which promotes sharing with each other.|


3) Strengthen Relationship Eating together can set a tone for carrying out meaningful conversations. Opening up and communicating graciously and honestly builds up each other and overcomes division and rifts if ever existed. It brings healing to the broken hearts, renews and strengthens relationship. Eating together just gives you the sense of intimacy. To have this sense of gratitude and belonging in the group is to have a confidence in members of the small-group. In this sense, we hold each other accountable.

4) Promote Sharing Ministry is a teamwork. Any group that maintains healthy relationship with group members, communicate effectively and in clarity will most likely succeed in the mission or ministry. Sharing requires trust of each other in the group. Without having known each other and bonded with group members, people cannot merely share about their lives, issues, struggles or anything that’s personal. The level of trust in the group determines how much one is ready and open to share. Therefore, the idea of sharing your personal life and struggles with someone certainly requires that you can trust and count on the persons or group you are with. Eating together can be a head start to begin to know someone and garner relationship that is built on trust and carried on by honest communication which promotes sharing with each other. So, be sure to include others, since the Gospel narratives make known of Christ too many times around the table with bread and wine.

Biblical Nuggets: Deacon


Deacon: Derived from the New Testament Greek word for servant or minister, the office of deacon has always been one of service to the congregation and its leaders, presbyters, priests and bishops. Following a rite described in Acts 6 in which “seven men of good standing” were appointed, deacons have traditionally been ordained. In the Pastoral Epistles of the New Testament, deacons function in ministerial work, often in service to the poor. In the *Post-Nicene church, deacons assisted in worship but would not preside in the eucharistic service. Deacons serve in Protestant denominations in a wide variety of roles. Among Baptists, for example, the board of deacons functions much as the board of elders in other fellowships.


Nathan P. Feldmeth. Pocket Dictionary of Church History (Kindle Locations 564-568). Kindle Edition.

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Sabbatum Excerpt: A Grace-Awakened Approach to Mission by George Verwer


There is such a need for this grace-awakened, big-hearted approach in mission work. There are so many areas where a lack of grace causes hurt and tension and positively hinders the work of God across the globe. So often our fellowship as Christians seems to be based more on minor areas in which we are like-minded, than on the real basics of the gospel and the clear doctrines of the Christian faith which are so amazing and on which we should be more united…

I think of all the people who have been rejected, to some degree, because they did not fit in with someone else’s expectations – because they were not Baptists or Anglicans or because they did not speak in tongues, or did not come up to the mark on any one of a hundred possible issues, which may or may not be of genuine importance. Many have felt rejection and hurt because they were not received by those who emphasized the gifts of the Spirit, simply because they did not have the same understanding of those gifts. The reverse is also true. Those who emphasize the gifts of the Spirit have felt rejected by members of the body who didn’t.

What makes this problem even more complex is that so often preachers emphasize these smaller issues from the pulpit, affecting how their congregations think and how they evaluate other people and their beliefs. It seems to me that our behavior often testifies that these little issues are more important to us than the unity and reality that we have in Jesus Christ by the new birth through His Holy Spirit. We lack grace in this area.


George Verwer, Out of the Comfort Zone: Grace, Vision, Action! (Authentic Publishing: Colorado Springs, CO, 2000), 5-6.

 

Biblical Nuggets: Communion


Communion: Generally, a term most closely related to the biblical idea of fellowship (from Greek *koinania). It can refer to either the relational fellowship persons may have with God or the fellowship persons have with one another, especially with those who are in Christ. The term is also used in reference to the *Lord’s Supper as an event marking the fellowship of the participants with Christ and with each other.[1]

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[1] Stanley J. Grenz;David Guretzki;Cherith Fee Nordling. Pocket Dictionary of Theological Terms (Kindle Locations 268-270). Kindle Edition.